Where has “the LOVE” gone?

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Broken homes are beginning to take the lead in this country and I couldn't help but ask why? 


Back in the 60s,70s,80s and even 90s the reverse was the case. You could happily see couples who had lasted 20,30 years and even more with so much excitement on their faces as they are happy to conquer more years together so I couldn't help but ask what changed? Over time I have been made to believe that love is a very important factor in choosing your spouse and so long as you both love each other then you are good to go because you would be able to conquer the hurdles together and sail through deep seas together but I can’t see that happening and I can’t help but ask “WHERE HAS THOU LOVE GONE”.


It seems love is actually not all it takes anymore because recently I stumbled on three marriages whose love has gone sour and the partners are willing to hit the road because they are tired and these are couples with children. Am pretty sure the children were conceived because of the love that drew both parties into each other’s arms and hence the bedroom. So what could be missing ???


So I can’t help but wonder, is love no longer what we need or is it not enough as supposed. 


I have a reason to believe that it’s all from faulty foundations. 

Most times we are quick to jump into marriage after few weeks or even months with this person mostly because of how we feel for the other person, we fail to see things that are most important for example, what are her values, her ambitions, her background (this can influence her relation to people and you too), her attitude, his plans (if it can accommodate you in the long run), his stability, his life goals (can they accommodate yours).

All these things cannot be handled by just love itself, we have to be intentional and purposeful about who we want to spend the rest of our lives with else we might join the increasing number by the end of the first year. 


Commitment, discipline and understanding the love languages of our spouse has nothing to do with feelings and they are very vital in marriages. No one is saying love isn’t needed but it’s not enough or better still, it should move you to want to build a better life with this person by asking salient questions and putting your all in the game including your head(on a lighter note). 


Let’s work to build successful relationships and hence healthy homes that would stand the taste of time. 


#Phavie loves you 

#Loving life 360 

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