WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES

 

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX. 

The word sex is one of the most popular words in our modern day activities. Through many variants, it is heard in most songs; heard among peers; shown in several movies, and apparently has come to stay with us. So we are going to be discussing a few things we should note about sex that are very paramount to a believer.

Is sex a sin before God? 

First, let’s look at the word sex scripturally. The first thing to note here is that the word sex was not clearly used in the NKJV of the Bible instead as it was replaced with  "knew or lay with" 

According to the law of first mention, the first time the word knew (as a euphemism to sex) was used in the Bible was in Genesis 4 vs 1....... “and Adam knew his wife Eve.......(Gen 4:1)

Going back to the question, is sex a sin before God? In Genesis 1 vs 28 “. . . and God blessed them and said be fruitful and multiply . . .” Note that God wasn't referring to animals. He was talking to Adam and Eve. So I can say that is when God brought the word sex into play because you will agree with me that the “production” of children is part of that multiplication. So sex is not a sin before God because it was made for a purpose. However, when it's been abused it becomes a sin before God. 

2. Who made sex and for what purpose was it made? 

James 1 vs 17 says that every good and perfect gift is from heaven which is God. Then in Genesis 1 vs 31, God saw that everything he made was good. Now looking at it biblically, I will say that God made sex by himself and for the purpose of: 

1. Procreation. 

2. Intimacy.

3. Bonding between man and wife. 

4. Sexual pleasure (Prov 5:18-19). 

So sex was beautifully made by God to achieve a unique purpose and is not to be abused by anyone.  

3. Who should have sex? 

Remember that before Adam had sex with Eve as recorded in Genesis chapter 4 vs 1, God had already joined them as husband and wife in chapter 2 vs 24-25. So it was supernaturally approved “. . . they were both naked; the man and his wife, and were not ashamed" (Genesis 2:24-25)

In that chapter 4 vs 1, the Bible stated that Adam knew his wife; not his friend, and she gave birth to Cain and Abel. Hence sex is made for husband and wife. So that brings us to an interesting question: who is a wife? In every culture, there are requirements that a man must meet with his “Eve’s” family before they can be declared husband and wife. In Genesis 24 vs 51-53, the servant of Abraham went in search for a wife for his master’s son, Isaac, and when he found Rebekah he followed her to go see her parents. On getting there, the Bible said in verse 53 that he offered them jewels of gold and silver and cloths and so on as the tradition demanded before taking Rebekah to Isaac for a wife. So on this note, I will like to state that until the requirements are met and the family gives their approval, there is no marriage. Any sex on this ground is called fornication and it's an evil thing before God because it is an abuse to his purpose of creating sex. So for you to be cleared before God to have sex, you must meet up with the requirements. 

4. What is sinful sex?

This is sex outside the rules of God just as I stated earlier. For example, fornication or adultery, having sex with someone you are not joined to as a husband or wife, is sin before God. 

DANGERS OF PREMARITAL SEX

Youth who begins early premarital sex activities are more likely to be engaged in an unsafe sex. This puts them at increased risk of contracting or transmitting sexual transmitted infections including HIV. It also makes them highly vulnerable to unwanted pregnancy and it's consequences. True, there are condoms out there but we know full well that there are chances of purchasing expired condoms or torn condoms which predispose individuals to risks. You wouldn't want to be so unfortunate now, would you? 

It can also lead to mental depression and dilemma. 

Diseases may also be transferred to the other partner unawares. 

Sex is a covenant between the man and the wife. Sex is used to complete marriage. It comes in after the joining as husband and wife as the ultimate act that consummates marriage. 

BENEFITS OF SEX

The benefits of sex are quite many. They range from reducing stress levels to lowering risk of cancer and heart attacks. Additionally, sex facilitates bonding and feeling of intimacy with your partner. This kind of connectedness does more than make you feel warm and fuzzy, it actually reduces anxiety and boosts your overall health. 

TIPS FOR HEALTHY SEX FOR COUPLES 

This may sound funny but it's true, you need to understand that sex is not just all about penetration. There is more to it.

1. It must not be done under duress.  

2. You must both be happy with each other before going down so the experience can be amazing. 

3. Put your selves in the mood first by touching, kissing etc. Start with some romance. 

4. Take your bath first, if possible with room temperature water. 

5. Make the  satisfaction of your partner your priority.

6. Avoid things that offends your partner during this awesome period. 

7. Help your partner after sex. 

8. Don't be quick to leave the bed. Look into your partner's eyes and say sweet things to each other. 

May God help your marriage Amen