THE CHURCH GIRL AND THE BAD GUY
Ever heard the saying " every church girl just needs a bad guy who loves the Lord."? .........Yeah and these are a few reasons why I think it's true;
Attention : The bad guy we feel has been with ladies and so knows just how to make us feel right by giving attention and so much attention could be one of the ways in which he won those ladies and true to our thoughts, most times it comes true
Beauty: it just kinda happens that the handsome church guys ratio the handsome bad guys is about 2:15. The bad guys just have a way of been so fine. Asin.......
Public show: it also happens that most of the time our bad guys are more exposed to places than the church ones( basically, church- home-concert -school-home) but the bad ones ( club-home-church-party-pool-golf-beach-club). Because of this,they know so many places and people, so we kinda prefer to hang out with them because we want to belong among our peers when they start mentioning reigning places in town. So you could say " oh club joker, Have been there "it's not so fun though but the DJ is cool". And for other reasons like this we prefer the bad guy, sha just loves the lord.
Sex: No one wants to marry a saint guy who has no clue of what happens in the other room. We want a righteous man who tasted it before he got saved or at least has experienced it one way or the other. No one wants a boring honey moon where you go to learn the different approaches to kissing and having great sex. And even though it sucks(for me), some "churchy girls" would still want to know what a blow job is.
All these demands we feel is best met by that bad guy who has the experience but also loves the lord and because of this we don't date our churchy brothers. They are best kept as our BFF(best friend forever), brother higher than brothers in fact they are just family.
Romance : Some may say I already talked about sex. Yes, but romance is different from sex. Romance is another level, it's a part we tour when we are in a relationship. When we are in a relationship we always want to express our love for each other, we want to feel loved by our partner, feel that electric flow through our veins but by all means avoid sex so we tend to recede to romance and cuddlin, some even call it "smushing". We just want to feel heaven without thinking if we are going to be having a baby.
But our Churchy brothers would by all means avoid this and we wouldn't want them to think ill of us so we resort to our awesome guys who can still loves the lord. At least to be on a safe part.
But the funny thing is, in all these deep down in our spirit we know these things ain't right. We know it's not what we want, but its what our body wants so we give in. There may be no lasting effect and truly it doesn't make you lass righteous but the truth is after everything you do, if you search deep down, you don't get that inner satisfaction that you out to get from being with the one you love.
So my dear, let's make a decision which is the first thing we need to do if anything is going to change, to appreciate what we have, love ourselves, love Jesus and tell ourselves that we don't need to do it. It may not be easy at first because its pleasure to the flesh but we need to decide to date a guy not because of what he can give to me, romance,sex,excess affection e.t.c, but because we are going to grow together, learn from each other and build each other. He may be a church guy or even a bad guy who loves the lord but most important thing is the motive.
When the motive is right even the bad guy can become a good brother who loves the lord. When he pushes for romance and I know deep down am not cool with it, I can simply say "hey sugar, am not ready for this it can wait " and if he loves you he should understand.
Some say sometimes you need to lower your standard for the one you love but sometimes the other needs to raise his standard for the one he loves. I think the raising is better.
#Phavie loves you
#loving life 360
Attention : The bad guy we feel has been with ladies and so knows just how to make us feel right by giving attention and so much attention could be one of the ways in which he won those ladies and true to our thoughts, most times it comes true
Beauty: it just kinda happens that the handsome church guys ratio the handsome bad guys is about 2:15. The bad guys just have a way of been so fine. Asin.......
Public show: it also happens that most of the time our bad guys are more exposed to places than the church ones( basically, church- home-concert -school-home) but the bad ones ( club-home-church-party-pool-golf-beach-club). Because of this,they know so many places and people, so we kinda prefer to hang out with them because we want to belong among our peers when they start mentioning reigning places in town. So you could say " oh club joker, Have been there "it's not so fun though but the DJ is cool". And for other reasons like this we prefer the bad guy, sha just loves the lord.
Sex: No one wants to marry a saint guy who has no clue of what happens in the other room. We want a righteous man who tasted it before he got saved or at least has experienced it one way or the other. No one wants a boring honey moon where you go to learn the different approaches to kissing and having great sex. And even though it sucks(for me), some "churchy girls" would still want to know what a blow job is.
All these demands we feel is best met by that bad guy who has the experience but also loves the lord and because of this we don't date our churchy brothers. They are best kept as our BFF(best friend forever), brother higher than brothers in fact they are just family.
Romance : Some may say I already talked about sex. Yes, but romance is different from sex. Romance is another level, it's a part we tour when we are in a relationship. When we are in a relationship we always want to express our love for each other, we want to feel loved by our partner, feel that electric flow through our veins but by all means avoid sex so we tend to recede to romance and cuddlin, some even call it "smushing". We just want to feel heaven without thinking if we are going to be having a baby.
But our Churchy brothers would by all means avoid this and we wouldn't want them to think ill of us so we resort to our awesome guys who can still loves the lord. At least to be on a safe part.
But the funny thing is, in all these deep down in our spirit we know these things ain't right. We know it's not what we want, but its what our body wants so we give in. There may be no lasting effect and truly it doesn't make you lass righteous but the truth is after everything you do, if you search deep down, you don't get that inner satisfaction that you out to get from being with the one you love.
So my dear, let's make a decision which is the first thing we need to do if anything is going to change, to appreciate what we have, love ourselves, love Jesus and tell ourselves that we don't need to do it. It may not be easy at first because its pleasure to the flesh but we need to decide to date a guy not because of what he can give to me, romance,sex,excess affection e.t.c, but because we are going to grow together, learn from each other and build each other. He may be a church guy or even a bad guy who loves the lord but most important thing is the motive.
When the motive is right even the bad guy can become a good brother who loves the lord. When he pushes for romance and I know deep down am not cool with it, I can simply say "hey sugar, am not ready for this it can wait " and if he loves you he should understand.
Some say sometimes you need to lower your standard for the one you love but sometimes the other needs to raise his standard for the one he loves. I think the raising is better.
#Phavie loves you
#loving life 360
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